Winning Attitude: Unconditional love!

How willing are you to give?

What I mean is this...

Do you give freely or with condition?
Do you give freely or with expectation?
Do you give freely or with guilt?
Do you give freely or with resentment?
Do you give freely or carelessly?

Again, how willing are you to give?

Here are two powerful quotes for you to consider...

1. "People don't care what you know until they know you care."

Do people get that you care?

2. "We must learn to love life without trusting it." G.K. Chesterton

Trust doesn't come first! Trust isn't earned, it is given!

How trusting are you?

Actions:

1. Give yourself time each day to consider and to observe yourself and others.
2. Consider how willing you are to commit to others and yourself.
3. Notice how willing others appear to be when working with you.
4. Take notes, record yourself...get it out of your head!
5. Pay attention...wink!

Give your thoughts and your feelings a voice!

Before there is an action, there is a choice and before choice there is attitude. Our attitudes, and our perspectives shape our relationships, our lives and yes, our businesses!

To your success,

James Possible (Mr. Possible)

PS: Remember "PAY ATTENTION!"

© 2009 James Possible LLC. All rights reserved in all media.

Coaching: 3 reasons why I'm not the coach for you...

You're satisfied with your life?
You're unwilling to make an effort?
You don't have a dream?
You know all you need to know?
You are happy alone
You enjoy overdraft charges
You enjoy cutoff notices
You enjoy being broke
You enjoy having money as an excuse to not go to the party
Your happy doing the same thing over and over and over again
You want someone else to care more than you do
You want someone else to work harder than you do
You would rather complain
You're right, really you're right
Your life is someone elses fault
You're unwilling to pickup a penny, a nickle, maybe even a dime
You're willing to do just enough
Your dream is "someday"
Being average is good enough
You aren't worth retail price
Noone really cares including you
You're to afraid
You put yourself last
You're reasonable
You're comfortable
You're not committed
You're committed to what you have
You want to keep everything in your head
Noone can do it better than you
You doubt yourself
You're angry
You've given up
You're willing to settle for less
You believe everyone else
You don't want to feel
You need to be convinced
You'll be serious...if
You'll believe...when
You'll do it...only when
You think "I can do that" and then do nothing
You want a guarantee
You want more than you give
You are confinced money is bad
You don't want to make money?
You want a job not a business
You think "why bother"
You're not worth $97 a year
You enjoy being mad
It works for everyone else not me
You're different, your the exception
You have to be convinced
You have to be motivated
You always choose the hardest path
You are convinced simple doesn't work
You are convinced noone else cares, so you don't care
You'll eat anything and expect to feel good
You'll do nothing and expect to have energy
You won't ask for help
You value others more than you value yourself
You're actions impact others and you don't get it
You think everyone else thinks like you
You're resigned to your life
You would rather invest a dollar in a lottery than 5 minutes in yourself
You believe luck has nothing to do with taking action
You don't plan
All the great opportunities are taken
Even free isn't good enough
People don't deserve to be paid for what they love
Planning is limiting
Speed is a challenge
Perfection comes first
Focus on why it won't work
Focued on the doubters
You're lazy
You want the easy path

Do your actions match what you're thinking?
Does your thinking match your actions?

Winning Does Matter!!!

To your success,

James Possible (Mr. Possible)

Possibility is not an accident, it's a choice!

© 2009 James Possible LLC. All rights reserved in all media.

Coaching: What's great about coaching...

Who's Andrea J Lee?

If you are a coach and you haven't heard of Andrea, it's time...and here's your chance. She is always up to something and right now her latest biggy is quietly being assembled, yet she is starting to tease the world with the tiniest of glimpses.

Anyways, I digress, coaching is one of those things you can't put in a box, although it's been done, and you can't put it in a book, although that's been done. Still, it is the actual experience of coaching that really says it all. And, everyone has a different experience...yep...I know, it's crazy good!

What's great about coaching...

Andrea recently posted to her blog a post that shares five quotes refering to what is great about coaching. I added my thoughts to the mix and would encourage you to do the same.

click here to view Andrea's post...

It's a chance to share your experience of coaching and maybe even to contribute to something bigger than you.

Share your experience...

Have you had a coaching experience you would like to share? Please do by leaving a comment.

To your success,

James Possible (Mr. Possible)

Possibility is not an accident, it's a choice!

PS: Make sure you take a second to check out Andrea's post.

© 2009 James Possible LLC. All rights reserved in all media.

Business Strategies: Did you miss it?

Growing your business in 2009...

Every Wednesday during 2009 you will have an opportunity to join me and a growing community of action oriented business minded professionals who are working to build a profitable and thriving business in 2009.  A business they love for the life style they want to live.

Listen to last weeks live audio recording, NOW!

Isolation is a challenge for most solo-professionals...

Do you ever find it frustrating and lonely as you work in and on your business?

This really is a great opportunity for you to turn your loneliness around.  Join me every Wednesday on a lively weekly business call focussed on answering questions, discussing strategies,  your business and your dream.

You can get started without spending a dime...

Each of the "Winning Matters!" calls will be held every Wednesday.

Call time 11:30am Eastern Standard Time

Phone number: 1-218-936-7999
Access code: 977222

Call length: 90 minutes

To your success,

James Possible (Mr. Possible)

Possibility is not an accident, it's a choice!

Client Attraction: It starts with excellence!

Are you playing all out?

It really doesn't matter how everyone else plays the game when it comes to business.  Ultimately your business, it's success and all you achieve with it comes back to "YOU"!

A couple questions to ask yourself...

Have  you set up your business to win i.e., have you given yourself the best possible chance to win?

Are you going through the motions?

Have you settled for "good enough" or "close enough for government work" as your standard?

...people know these things intuitively when then meet you.  If your not playing the game with everything you have to give it will become very obvious at the time when it's most critical.  The moment the curious visitor decides to say "YES! I'm in..." or "Not today...".

80/20 rule...

Have you ever heard the saying "80% of winning the game is showing up."

Or have you ever heard "20% of business is about skill, the other 80% is about attitude."

Both sayings, while they may be accurate, can actually take you out of the game i.e., keep you from having the successful business you want if you are not careful.  This is especially true is you are a soloprofessional or a solobusiness owner (i.e., a life or business coach).

How much skill is enough?

On a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 be "AAAMAZING" and 1 being "BOOOOO! HISSSSS!" how would you rate your skills, your ability to perform the service you delivering?

How would you rate the quality of the service you deliver?  (10 being "OMG I WANT MORE!" and 1 being "EEEEEW, GET AWAY, NOW!")

My point, unless you are going to promote someone else, someone who is EXTREMELY skilled, you will have to be the one with the skills!  You will have to be the one with the "MAGIC"!

Before attitude comes skill...

First things first, become a master at what you do (the service you want to provide).  Once you are masterful then focusing on the business will be much easier.

Excellence in action...

...exellence is very compelling and extremely attractive.

When you skills are masterful it's easy for people to remember you, it's easy for people to recommend you.

Time to get real with yourself...

1. Are you delivering the quality of service you want?

2. Are your clients AAAAAMAZED by you and the benefits of working with you?

3. How compelling is the experience of working with you?

4. What 3 things could you do today to improve your skills and your service?

5. Well, what are you waiting for...GET BUSY!

To your success,

James Possible (Mr. Possible)

Possibility is not an accident, it's a choice!

Coaching Services: Charging To Much?

When we challenge ourselves, we challenge others!

In a recent blog post Christian Mickelsen openely shares how his recent prices hike is making his subscribers "MAD".

On my last "Winning Matters" weekly call we spent 90 minutes talking money and how it impacts your coaching business, clients and your life.

The call is every Wednesday...

Call time 11:30am Eastern Standard Time

Phone number: 1-218-936-7999
Access code: 977222

Call length: 90 minutes

Back to the whole money thing...

It's unavoidable, money impacts you whether you like it or not.

When you live in an over populated and heavily polluted area the quality of the air you breath is impacted.  Change your environment, move to a different area, and you can change the quality of the air you breath.

Zig Ziggler compares money to air.  "Money's like air, you don't need it unless you want to breath!"

Your attitudes, perspectives, believes, experience, observations and learnings all work together to either give you a good feeling about money or a yuky feeling about money.

Ultimately it's up to "YOU"...

Either you see money as a limitation or a possibility.

And the important thing about how you see money is that it will impact how you willing you are to receive it just as much as it will impact how much you're willing to spend.

Final thoughts...

1. Checkout Christians blog post, read my comment and share your's as well.

2. Join me on the Winning Matters call today...even if you're late or have to leave early.

3. Start looking at how you relate to money...is it a limitation or a possibility.

To your success,

James Possible (Mr. Possible)

Possibility is not an accident, it's a choice!

Coaching Business: Surviving the Home Office...

If you have an office at home you'll want to read this post...

It's to complicated...

I recently came across a post at Michael Port's new Booked Solid Network and the poster shared a challenge that is all to familiar.  How does she keep her office space and time free of toys and other household things and family demands?

This morning while reading and reflecting on the post.  I realized the typical advice in such cases is, far to often, more likely to complicate the matter by adding more work and stress rather than simplifying and reducing stress.

Let me explain...

The symptom isn't the issue...

The easy thing to do is to say..."follow these 10 steps and you'll be golden.  Life will forever be wonderful from that point on..."

Question: If you don't have time to handle what you're doing right now, how will you ever have time to add 10 more steps to your work load...get the point!

Not having a clear division between the home office and the house and family is a symptom, a result of your current habits and even your current perspective.  Habits and perspective lead to certain predictable choices and those choices lead to the same actions over and over again.

When you or I focus on the symptom without looking at the cause life can quickly become "HELL"!  It's like a dog chasing it's tail, even if he catches his tail, then what?

You are not alone when it comes to struggling with how to make your home office a more productive environment.

Don't focus on the clutter...

I suggest that looking at the cause of the clutter or the challenge is far more effective than focusing on the clutter itself.  Here's an example...

We live in an old historical home and closet space seems to be more of an after thought than a functional living need.

Well, for the longest time we fought with the children and keeping their toys and things off the floor.  It was an "EVERYDAY EFFORT" and "DRAIN" on my energy as well as my wife's.

Then it happened, my wife made a comment, one she had probably said before and I just didn't hear it..."If they just had a place to put all the toys..."  Once I heard those words "I GOT IT"!

I immediately went out and purchased some drawers and storage bins and then the miracle happened..."WE HAD MORE SPACE...WINK"!  Wow, it was unbelievable.

Prior to understanding the CAUSE I was focused on the mess and constantly moving the mess from one place to the next.  Nothing really changing other than the location of the mess.

Does this sound familiar?

What is the cause...

Think about it as what is the cause of the challenge...rather than, what is the challenge...

eat too much = weight gain

stopped exercising = weight gain

save money = take a vacation

save money = cash reserves

Ultimately you could say -  

awareness =  choice

You might even say - 

habit without awareness = no choice 

So, are you giving yourself a choice or not?

Time for a change...

Rather than add to the complexity of your day ask yourself...

What could I do to simplify communication with my family? (Goal: Ease transition from working Mom to working Entrepreneur)

Make a list and keep it with you for a week to write down new ideas as you're going about your day.

What could I do to keep my office space free of household clutter?  (Goal: Create a productive working environment for you as an Entrepreneur)

Again, make a list and keep it with you for a week to write down new ideas as you're going about your day.

If there isn't a compelling reason for you to make the change, your habits will win more often than not.

No compelling reason to act = Same old thing

Cause and effect!

You might say that the effect you want is a clean, stress free home office.  Yet, that's only a stepping stone.

You might even say being more productive with your time is the net effect.  Yet, that's only a stepping stone as well.

Then again might say making more sales is the net effect and still you will only be looking at a stepping stone.

Go ahead...continue this process on your own to see where it takes you.

Is it frustrating but tolerable...

If you don't take the time to understand the "WHY" you will never be motivated to make a different choice or to take a different action.  Doing what you're currently doing will continue to be the norm.

What is the ultimate benefit to you turning your home office into a place that allows you to be the very best entrepreneur and business person you can be?

Don't allow yourself to tolerate the frustration, dedicate some time to answering the questions and understanding what is really motivating you to have a business.

Give yourself a chance!

Key points...

1. Change your perspective, change your choice

2. Change your choice, change your action

3. Change your action, change your outcome

4. Simplify

5. Have a compelling reason to change

To your success,

James Possible (Mr. Possible)

Possibility is not an accident, it's a choice!